Gandhi's 10
Rules for Changing the World
“The difference between what we do and what we are capable of
doing would suffice to solve most of the world’s problem.”
Mahatma Gandhi needs no long
introduction. Everyone knows about the man who lead the Indian people to independence
from British rule in 1947.
So let’s just move on to some of my
favourite tips from Mahatma Gandhi.
1. Change yourself.
“You must be the change you want to see in the world.”
“As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to
remake the world – that is the myth of the atomic age – as in being able to
remake ourselves.”
If you change yourself you will change
your world. If you change how you think then you will change how you feel and
what actions you take. And so the world around you will change. Not only
because you are now viewing your environment through new lenses of thoughts and
emotions but also because the change within can allow you to take action in
ways you wouldn’t have – or maybe even have thought about – while stuck in your
old thought patterns.
And the problem with changing your
outer world without changing yourself is that you will still be you when you
reach that change you have strived for. You will still have your flaws, anger,
negativity, self-sabotaging tendencies etc. intact.
And so in this new situation you will
still not find what you hoped for since your mind is still seeping with that
negative stuff. And if you get more without having some insight into and
distance from your ego it may grow more powerful. Since your ego loves to
divide things, to find enemies and to create separation it may start to try to
create even more problems and conflicts in your life and world.
2. You are in control.
“Nobody
can hurt me without my permission.”
What you feel and how you react to
something is always up to you. There may be a “normal” or a common way to react
to different things. But that’s mostly just all it is.
You can choose your own thoughts,
reactions and emotions to pretty much everything. You don’t have to freak out,
overreact of even react in a negative way. Perhaps not every time or instantly.
Sometimes a knee-jerk reaction just goes off. Or an old thought habit kicks in.
And as you realize that no-one outside
of yourself can actually control how you feel you can start to incorporate this
thinking into your daily life and develop it as a thought habit. A habit that
you can grow stronger and stronger over time. Doing this makes life a whole lot easier
and more pleasurable.
3. Forgive and let it go.
“The
weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
“An
eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind.”
Fighting evil with evil won’t help
anyone. And as said in the previous tip, you always choose how to react to
something. When you can incorporate such a thought habit more and more into
your life then you can react in a way that is more useful to you and others.
You realize that forgiving and letting
go of the past will do you and the people in your world a great service. And
spending your time in some negative memory won’t help you after you have
learned the lessons you can learn from that experience. You’ll probably just
cause yourself more suffering and paralyze yourself from taking action in this
present moment.
If you don’t forgive then you let the
past and another person to control how you feel. By forgiving you release
yourself from those bonds. And then you can focus totally on, for instance, the
next point.
4. Without action you aren’t
going anywhere.
“An ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching.”
Without taking action very little will
be done. However, taking action can be hard and difficult. There can be much
inner resistance.
And so you may resort to preaching, as
Gandhi says. Or reading and studying endlessly. And feeling like you are moving
forward. But getting little or no practical results in real life.
So, to really get where you want to go
and to really understand yourself and your world you need to practice. Books
can mostly just bring you knowledge. You have to take action and translate that
knowledge into results and understanding.
5. Take care of this moment.
“I do not want to foresee the future. I am concerned with taking
care of the present. God has given me no control over the moment following.”
The best way that I have found to
overcome the inner resistance that often stops us from taking action is to stay
in the present as much as possible and to be accepting.
Why? Well, when you are in the present
moment you don’t worry about the next moment that you can’t control anyway. And
the resistance to action that comes from you imagining negative future
consequences – or reflecting on past failures – of your actions loses its
power. And so it becomes easier to both take action and to keep your focus on
this moment and perform better.
6. Everyone is human.
“I claim to be a simple
individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I
have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace my steps.”
“It is unwise to be too sure of
one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken
and the wisest might err.”
When you start to make myths out of
people – even though they may have produced extraordinary results – you run the
risk of becoming disconnected from them. You can start to feel like you could
never achieve similar things that they did because they are so very different.
So it’s important to keep in mind that everyone is just a human being no matter
who they are.
And I think it’s important to remember
that we are all human and prone to make mistakes. Holding people to
unreasonable standards will only create more unnecessary conflicts in your
world and negativity within you.
It’s also important to remember this
to avoid falling into the pretty useless habit of beating yourself up over
mistakes that you have made. And instead be able to see with clarity where you
went wrong and what you can learn from your mistake. And then try again.
7. Persist.
“First they ignore you, then
they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.”
Be persistent. In time the opposition
around you will fade and fall away. And your inner resistance and self-sabotaging
tendencies that want to hold you back and keep you like you have always been
will grow weaker.
One reason Gandhi was so successful
with his method of non-violence was because he and his followers were so
persistent. They just didn’t give up.
8. See the good in people and
help them.
“I look only to the good qualities of men. Not being faultless
myself, I won’t presume to probe into the faults of others.”
“Man becomes great exactly in the degree in which he works for the
welfare of his fellow-men.”
“I suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it
means getting along with people.”
There is pretty much always something
good in people. And things that may not be so good. But you can choose what
things to focus on. And if you want improvement then focusing on the good in
people is a useful choice. It also makes life easier for you as your world and
relationships become more pleasant and positive.
And when you see the good in people it
becomes easier to motivate yourself to be of service to them. By being of
service to other people, by giving them value you not only make their lives
better. Over time you tend to get what you give. And the people you help may
feel more inclined to help other people. And so you, together, create an upward
spiral of positive change that grows and becomes stronger.
9. Be congruent, be
authentic, be your true self.
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do
are in harmony.”
“Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed.
Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.”
I think that one of the best tips for
improving your social skills is to behave in a congruent manner and communicate
in an authentic way. People seem to really like authentic communication. And
there is much inner enjoyment to be found when your thoughts, words and actions
are aligned. You feel powerful and good about yourself.
When words and thoughts are aligned
then that shows through in your communication. Because now you have your voice
tonality and body language – some say they are over 90 percent of communication
– in alignment with your words.
With these channels in alignment
people tend to really listen to what you’re saying. You are communicating
without incongruency, mixed messages or perhaps a sort of phoniness.
Also, if your actions aren’t in
alignment with what you’re communicating then you start to hurt your own belief
in what you can do. And other people’s belief in you too.
10. Continue to grow and
evolve.
”Constant development is the law of life, and a man who always
tries to maintain his dogmas in order to appear consistent drives himself into
a false position.”
You can pretty much always improve
your skills, habits or re-evaluate your evaluations. You can gain deeper understanding
of yourself and the world.
Sure, you may look inconsistent or
like you don’t know what you are doing from time to time. You may have trouble
to act congruently or to communicate authentically. But if you don’t then you
will, as Gandhi says, drive yourself into a false position. A place where you
try to uphold or cling to your old views to appear consistent while you realise
within that something is wrong. It’s not a fun place to be. To choose to grow
and evolve is a happier and more useful path to take.
I love this.. so simple yet powerful..
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