Saturday, 30 October 2021

Random Act of Kindness

 


The Music Professor:

"I had a breakdown in the middle of one of my college classes. I had been depressed for several weeks and feeling like I wasn’t good enough to be in my major. Really I just felt worthless.

I was doing a kind of a performance-based test in front of the whole class, and I was doing terribly. I was really angry at myself for not being better. My professor said to me, 'Do you want to try it again at the end of class?' I nodded and went back to my seat and immediately started crying uncontrollably. Ended up excusing myself to the bathroom so I wouldn’t cry in front of the class.

I performed again at the end of the class, and my professor was really patient with me and gave me feedback. The thing that really got me was before he dismissed the class, he wrote down in the binder I had in front of me, 'You are a strong, smart musician, and you have a bright future ahead of you. I believe in you, and I’m here for you.' I cried even harder after that but in a good way. I had never felt a teacher care for me that much, and that genuinely turned around my entire year and made my sense of self-worth improve so much."

 



Sunday, 24 October 2021

" a Silent Tragedy" - Dr. Ovid / Dr.Luis Rojas Marcos.

 


Dr. Dr. Ovid, pediatrician neurologist, warning of a silent tragedy that is growing today in our homes.

There is a silent tragedy that is growing today in our homes, and is about our most beautiful jewelry: our children. Our children are in a devastating emotional state! Over the past 15 years, researchers have given us increasingly alarming stats on a steady and acute increase in childhood mental illness now reaching epidemic proportions:

Stats don't lie:

• 1 out of 5 children have mental health issues

• A 43 % increase was seen in ADHD

• A 37 % increase in adolescent depression has been observed

• A 200 % increase in the suicide rate among children aged 10 to 14 years has been observed.

What is going on and what are we doing wrong?

Today's children are over-stimulated and over-donated with material items, but they are deprived of the foundations of a healthy childhood, such as:

• Emotionally available parents

• clearly defined limits

• responsibilities

• Balanced nutrition and adequate sleep

• Movement in general but especially outdoors

• Creative game, social interaction, informal gaming opportunities and spaces for boredom

Instead, these last few years have been filled to the children of:

• Digitally distracted parents

• Indulgent and permissive parents who let children ′′ rule the world ′′ and be the ones who set the rules

• A sense of law, to deserve everything without winning it or being responsible for getting it

• Inappropriate sleep and unbalanced nutrition

• A sedentary lifestyle

• Endless stimulation, tech nannies, instant gratification and no boring moments

What to do?

If we want our children to be happy and healthy individuals, we need to wake up and get back to basics. It's still possible! Many families see immediate improvements after weeks of following recommendations:

• Set boundaries and remember you are the captain of the boat. Your children will feel safer knowing you are in control of the rudder.

. • Give children a balanced lifestyle filled with what children need, not just what they want. Don't be afraid to say ′′ no ′′ to your kids if what they want isn't what they need

• Provide nutritious food and limit junk food.

• Spend at least an hour a day outdoors doing activities such as: Cycling, hiking, fishing, bird / bug watching

• Enjoy a daily family dinner without smartphones or technology that distracts them.

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• Play family board games or if kids are too small for board games, get down on the floor and play with them.



• Involve your children in a home stain or stain depending on their age (folding clothes, order toys, hanging clothes, unpacking supplies, setting table, feeding dogs etc. The whole world

• Implement a consistent sleep routine to make sure your child sleeps long enough. Hours will be even more important for school age children.

• Teaching responsibility and independence. Don't protect them too much from frustration or error. Being wrong will help them develop resilience and learn how to overcome life's challenges,

• Don't load your kids backpack, don't carry your backpacks, don't take the stain they forgot, don't peel their bananas oranges if they can do it from themselves same (4-5 years). Instead of giving them the fish, show them to fish.

• Teach them how to wait and delay gratuity.

• Provide opportunities for ′′ boredom ", because boredom is the moment creativity wakes up. Don't feel responsible for always keeping kids entertaining.

• Don't use technology as a cure for boredom, nor offer it at the first second of inactivity.

• Avoid using technology during meals, in cars, restaurants, shopping centres. Use these moments as opportunities to socialize by thus training the brains to function when they are in mode: ′′ boredom ′′

• Help them create a ' Bottom of Boredom ' with activity ideas for when they're bored.

• Be emotionally available to connect with children and teach them self-regulation and social skills:

• Turn off phones at night when kids need to go to bed to avoid digital distraction.

• Become an emotional regulator or coach of your children. Teach them to recognize and deal with their own frustrations and anger.

• Show them to salute, take tricks, share without staying without anything, say thank you and please recognize the mistake and apologize (don't force them), be model of all these values he has instilled.



• Connect emotionally - smile, kiss, kiss, tickled, read, dance, jump, play or gate with them.

Article written by Dr. Luis Rojas Marcos, psychiatrist.

 


Saturday, 16 October 2021

" " Only for Today " - Pope St.John XX111

 





“Only for Today”  - Pope St John XXIII.

 

His ten point daily plan is worth exploring and living today … and every day this week!

 

• 1. Only for today, I will seek to live the livelong day positively without wishing to solve the problems of my life all at once.

 

• 2. Only for today, I will take the greatest care of my appearance: I will dress modestly; I will not raise my voice; I will be courteous in my behaviour; I will not criticize anyone; I will not claim to improve or to discipline anyone except myself.

 

• 3. Only for today, I will be happy in the certainty that I was created to be happy, not only in the other world but also in this one.

 

• 4. Only for today, I will adapt to circumstances, without requiring all circumstances to be adapted to my own wishes.

 

• 5. Only for today, I will devote 10 minutes of my time to some good reading, remembering that just as food is necessary to the life of the body, so good reading is necessary to the life of the soul.

 


• 6. Only for today, I will do one good deed and not tell anyone about it.

 

• 7. Only for today, I will do at least one thing I do not like doing; and if my feelings are hurt, I will make sure that no one notices.

 

• 8. Only for today. , I will make a plan for myself: I may not follow it to the letter, but I will make it. And I will be on guard against two evils: hastiness and indecision

 

• 9. Only for today, I will firmly believe, despite appearances, that the good Providence of God cares for me as no one else who exists in this world.

 

• 10. Only for today, I will have no fears. In particular, I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful and to believe in goodness. Indeed, for 12 hours I can certainly do what might cause me consternation were I to believe I had to do it all my life.

 

 




Saturday, 9 October 2021

Today is a day I'll not soon forget

 


Today is a day I'll not soon forget..

 


As I was combining in the fields today, I was unloading into the auger cart and I saw a vehicle go by a couple times slowly and then pull over and stop. I had a minor repair to make and the vehicle stayed... I was a little concerned until I happened to catch 3 little sets of eyes looking out windows.

I went over and they rolled down the window and I asked if they needed anything and the lady explained their grandchildren were visiting from Florida and had never seen "farmer stuff" up close. There were 2 boys and a little girl.. I'd assume they were between the ages of 6 and 9. The two boys were all giddy but the little girl, while sweet and excited was pretty quiet.

I also happen to notice that she kept turning away from me and there was a scar or a birthmark or something on her face... And I felt really bad trying to figure out what it was because I was feeling like I'm staring at her..

The grandmother and her husband thanked me for stopping and saying hi and said they would get going because they knew farmers were busy this time of the year... And I said be careful and have a good trip...

It was then that one of the boys said are you going to be going soon cuz we would like to see what that machine does... the grandmother quickly quieted them and I said would it be okay if I took them for a ride...

She then said No we're sure your way too busy for that and I said no I'm by myself for now I've got time so she asked the two boys if they wanted to go and of course they did but the little girl stayed back.

I asked her again if she wanted to go and she said no thank you and so the boys and I went and got in the combine and we made one round and came back... While in the combine I said why didn't your sister want to come... they said shes shy. I then, because of curiosity, asked them about her face... And they told me it was a birthmark and that she gets picked on about it a lot.

After their ride I walked them back over to their grandparents car and I said to the little girl How come you didn't want to go for a ride? And she said well the boys always say that that kind of stuff is just for boys not for girls...

I laughed and said You know, there are girl farmers AND I even had a young girl in that cab just yesterday. Would you like a ride? She looked at her Grandma and she said go ahead if you want.

I then asked the grandmother if she had a smartphone and knew how to video... She laughed and said I have grandchildren of course I know how to video... So I told her have your phone ready and when you see me turn on the yellow flashing lights video the combine.

The little girl and I got in the cab and I turned the machine around and went back into the field at the end of it and came back facing her grandparents vehicle. I then said to her...here.. you can turn the steering wheel... she first looked at me like I was on crack cocaine... But I finally convinced her and I told her not everybody gets to do this but people that are part of the special face Club definitely get to...but its a secret reason why you get to drive so you cant tell anyone. We even pinky swore on it...

The smile she had made this old tired grumpy mans heart soft and there must have been some Bean dust in the cab because my allergies started acting up just a little bit... So I let her "steer" and turned on the yellow lights on the way back so her Grandma could video tape her "driving by".

We got out of the combine and she still had a huge smile on her face and ran over to her grandma and was a little Chatterbox did you see me did you see me I got to drive I got to drive... Her brothers were obviously a little miffed... And ask her why she got to drive... I was afraid she was going to tell them why... But with all the sass of a little brunette girl with her hair in a pony she looked at them both matter-of-factly and said Because girls CAN farm.

My allergies started acting up a little bit again as she came back running over to me and gave me a huge hug and told me thank you... The grandfather came over and patted me on the shoulder shook my hand said I don't know what you said to her...but that's the biggest smile we've seen on her this vacation so far... the boys shook my hand and thanked me and got back into the vehicle and drove away... Leaving me to my thoughts

And all I could think of was if one of the combines hadnt broke down yesterday, I wouldn't have been in that field this morning, and I wouldnt have been by myself and we would have been really pushed wherever we were at to keep up with everything...and it proved to me once again everything happens for a reason...

All three of their faces were on my mind the rest of the day but mostly hers... not because of her birthmark, because of her genuine smile in the confidence that she showed when she got to get out of that combine and "brag" a little to the boys.

My gramps told me long ago to always be patient with children and people you come in contact with. I remember the countless times that he would let me "drive" the tractor... and the exhilaration and happiness that I felt during that time... And I swore that I was going to make other people feel that way when I got older... and I've definitely failed at that numerous times.. but I'm trying..

But, Im kind of thinking maybe that's what I did today or maybe that little girl made me feel like that little boy with his Gramps all those years ago.

30 minutes out of 24 hours... I need to do that more often....

Today was a good day... and one I shall not soon forget.

Credit: Jeff Ditzenberger





Sunday, 3 October 2021

" My Wish ..... to be a Smart Phone "

 

I need a Hug !!


"Grace before Meals "


SAD BUT SO VERY TRUE .....

After dinner a teacher started checking homework done by her students. Her husband is strolling around with a smart phone playing his favourite game ‘Candy Crush Saga’.

When reading the last homework notes, the wife starts crying with silent tears....

Her husband saw this and asked, ‘Why are you crying dear? What happened?’

Wife: ‘Yesterday I gave homework to my 1st Standard students, to write something on the topic ... 'MY WISH ’

Husband: ‘OK, but why are you crying?’

Wife: ‘Today while checking the last notes, it made me cry.’

Husband curiously: ‘What’s written in the notes that makes you cry?’

Wife: LISTEN......

My wish is to become a smart phone.

My parents love their smart phone very much.

They care about their smart phone so much that sometimes they forget to care for me.

When my father comes from the office tired, he has time for his smart phone but not for me.

When my parents are doing some important work and smart phone is ringing, within single ring they attend the phone, but not to me...

even if I am crying.

They play games on their smart phones not with me.

When they are talking to someone on their smart phone, they never listen to me even if I am telling them something important.

So, MY WISH is to become a smart phone.

After listening to the note my husband got emotional and asked the wife, ‘Who wrote this??’.

Wife: ‘OUR SON ’......

Gadgets are beneficial, but they are for our ease not to cease the love amongst family and loved ones.

Children see and feel everything what happens with & around them. Things get imprinted on their mind with an everlasting effect. Let’s take due care, so that they do not grow with any false impressions...

 An Early Choice..




" Somebody read me a story "

"Strangled"


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