ANTHONY HOPKINS - Powerful words.
′′Let go the people who are not prepared to love you. This is the hardest
thing you will have to do in your life and it will also be the most important
thing. Stop having hard conversations with people who don't want change.
Stop showing up for people who have no interest in your presence. I know your instinct
is to do everything to earn the appreciation of those around you, but it's a
boost that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health.
When you begin to fight for a life with joy, interest and
commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you in this place. This
doesn't mean you need to change what you are, it means you should let go of
the people who aren't ready to accompany you.
If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the
people you give your time to, you don't do yourself a favour by continuing to
offer your energy and your life. The truth is that you are not for everyone
and not everyone is for you.
That's what makes it so special when you meet people who
reciprocate love. You will know how precious you are.
The more time you spend trying to make yourself loved by someone
who is unable to, the more time you waste depriving yourself of the possibility
of this connection to someone else.
There are billions of people on this planet and many of them
will meet with you at your level of interest and commitment.
The more you stay involved with people who use you as a pillow,
a background option or a therapist for emotional healing, the longer you stay
away from the community you want.
Maybe if you stop showing up, you won't be wanted. Maybe if you
stop trying, the relationship will end. Maybe if you stop texting your
phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn't mean you ruined the relationship,
it means the only thing holding it back was the energy that only you gave to
keep it. This is not love, it's attachment. It's wanting to give a chance to
those who don't deserve it. You deserve so much, there are people who should
not be in your life.
The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time
and energy, and both are limited. When you give your time and energy, it
will define your existence.
When you realize this, you begin to understand why you are so
anxious when you spend time with people, in activities, places or situations
that don't suit you and shouldn't be around you, your energy is stolen.
You will begin to realize that the most important thing you can
do for yourself and for everyone around you is to protect your energy more
fiercely than anything else. Make your life a safe haven, in which only
′′compatible′′ people are allowed.
You are not responsible for saving anyone. You are not
responsible for convincing them to improve. It's not your work to exist for
people and give your life to them! If you feel bad, if you feel compelled, you
will be the root of all your problems, fearing that they will not return the
favours you have granted. It's your only obligation to realize that you are
the love of your destiny and accept the love you deserve.
Decide that you deserve true friendship, commitment, true and
complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Then wait and see how much
everything begins to change. Don't waste time with people who are not worth
it. Change will give you the love, the esteem, happiness and the protection you
deserve."
Anthony Hopkins
In the blink of an eye another day is gone,
In the blink of an eye another week is gone.
In the blink of an eye another month is gone,
In the blink of an eye another year is gone.
And in the blink of an eye I'll be gone too,
And not just me but also you.
So maybe we should be wishin' and hopin',
That we could just keep our eyes open.
And see and appreciate all that we can see,
And learn how we can be, the best that we can be,
Before it's too late,
Time flies, so let's not wait.
Whether we have just one life or many, one thing is
true,
We should try to enjoy every moment we can; it's
the wisest thing to do.
Author Unknown
+ here is a quote I share with you for the year ahead:
“If the world is to be healed through human efforts, I am convinced it will be by ordinary people, people whose love for this life is even greater than their fear.”